Why You’re Not Getting What You Want

If you’re not attracting in what you want, whether that be the right relationship, amazing friends, your ideal job, total health, or anything else in your life, the first thing to do is to become AWARE of the energy you’re putting out into the world. Most people make the mistake of jumping ahead in the manifestation process, but it always starts with the inner work. (Check out my outline on how to manifest ANYTHING you want here!) Repeating affirmations, visualizing, and thinking positively does zilch if you haven’t gotten to the root of the issue – your energetics.

It takes extreme honesty with yourself to do this, but this is how the work gets done. Any time I feel like I’m attracting in something I don’t want, or I’m not attracting in what I do want, I have to CHECK MYSELF. There’s something in my energy that’s creating the block.

I look at my behavior, thoughts, actions, or decisions related to what I want, and I ask myself:

Is this coming from an abundance mindset, or a scarcity mindset?
Is this coming from a place of love, or a place of fear?

Every thought, action, and decision comes from an abundance mindset or a scarcity mindset, a place of love or a place of fear. The former makes you magnetic to what you want, the latter pushes it away. Everything can be distilled down to that when you really think about it.

Why are you staying in that job? Why are you TAKING that job? Why are you making that business decision? Why are you NOT investing in yourself? Why are you in this relationship? Why are you not leaving this relationship? Why are you looking for a partner? Why are you spending time with that person? Why aren’t you setting that boundary? Why are you exercising in that way? Why are you taking that supplement? Why are you eating in that way?

Why did I say that? Why did I think that? Why did I do that? What place am I making this decision from?

Is it from a place of love, or a place of fear? Is it from an abundance mindset, or a scarcity mindset?

Maybe you’re not investing in yourself from a place of love and from an abundance mindset, because you truly believe the best thing for you is to wait for an even better opportunity to come along – you know it’s coming your way. But maybe you’re not investing in yourself from a place of fear and from a scarcity mindset – you think you don’t have the money and you’re scared it won’t be worth it. You’ll never reach your goals that way.

Maybe you’re not leaving your job from a place of love and from an abundance mindset, because the job you have fills your cup and allows you to reach your financial goals. But maybe you’re not leaving from a place of fear and from a scarcity mindset, because you’re not sure you’ll get another job and you don’t know if you’ll be able to make enough money. And if you do leave that job with those fears in your head, you still won’t be putting out the right energy to attract in your dream job. You’ll attract in your dream job when you believe you’ll have more than enough money as long as you make every decision from a place of love and alignment, and you follow through with that.

Those are just a few examples. Do you see the difference in energetics? The people who effortlessly attract in what they want (we call this “good luck,” but it’s not luck…) make decisions from a place of love, and with an abundance mindset.

Ask yourself those questions, and be honest with yourself. It might be uncomfortable at first, but it’s an empowering practice. If you’re afraid to face that truth, step into your fear and trust that you’ll come out better on the other side. Whenever you find the answer to these questions is that your thought, action, or decision is coming from a place of fear, or a scarcity mindset, you understand why you’re not attracting in what you want. This is energy awareness, and shifting your energy is what allows you to expand.

Improvement requires radical honesty with where you’re currently at. Discomfort breeds expansion. Trust it.